arranged or love marriage

Arrange marriage make up vastly the higher percentage oinm human history but have largely in the last century, become unusual and moraly questioned in the western world where overt arrange marriage still occour in Europe and the Americans it is usuallywithin immigrants communities .This creates further complication in discuusing the issue because it not only becomes caught up in discussion of racism and ethnic right ,but also in the loadeddebate on immigration.

PROS:- Arranging marriage is an insult to the very nature of marriage which should be about creating a loving and lasting partnership and family .It reduces a central partof what is fundamentaly a religious ceremony (and every religion ,including Islam guarentees choice) to a commercial transaction and therfore undermine family values. This is even more an issue where people come into a country where marriage is seen as a central value that should be free , where it is a specific challenge to any moral code.
To allow arranged marriages leads to unacceptable pressure on those involved. They are often reliant on the parents who wish them to take part in arranged marriages for their futures as well as their current welfare. Moreover, the line between what constitutes an arranged and what constitutes a forced marriage is so hazy it can’t be policed, as is the line between legitimate and illegitimate influence. To protect from the latter we must stop the former. The law can help children who are often seeking bargaining chips to help them evade the pressure to marry from their family and community.
Arranged marriage is bad both for the individual women concerned and for women generally in society. In the former case this is because they are very vulnerable. Often they are from far away from home, don’t speak the local language or dialect and are totally reliant on the husband’s house and family. The lack of a support network, the language to appeal for help or knowledge of their rights makes women in arranged marriages disproportionately likely to suffer abuse. In the latter case, arrangement commodifies women who are bartered between the male heads of houses
CONS:- Arrange marriages are very much real image marriages.Vastly more marriages than not in human history would fall under any sensible definition of arrangement.More tha that ,an unusually small number of arranged marraiges actually end in divorce.Maybe we should look harder at whether pop start marriages constitute real marriage if we areabout to make that distinction.More seriouslymillions of people marry for the wrong reason financial security desire for children ,parental pressure and lack of choice among potential partner.It is pure romonticism to claim that marriages must be love matches or they shopuld be stopped .This only serves to illustrate that if is impossible to make any sensible division between what is and isn't an arranged marriage and therefore quixotic to attempt a ban.
Arranged marriages do involve choice. The difference is merely that whole families are involved together in both considering the best options and in helping to achieve what is wanted. This is particularly fitting in a social system which places high value on the way in which the extended family work together, and ensures that there is family support and shared expectations which contribute to the longevity of the marriage